Current Life Updates

November 13, 2025

The other day, I was on a call with Melinda Chinen and she told me about a cute instagram reel she had made about her time at an artist residency. I instantly clicked the link she sent me and watched it. It was so good. I squealed a few times because it just oozed her essence. I was reminded of how lovely it is to create things like that. Not for the sake of the audience, but for the sake of yourself. Because when you make art, you understand yourself better. You sort of plant your flag in the sand and say THIS IS ME. And that’s not a benign thing in a person’s life. Certainly has never been benign for me. I probably over-indexed on it for a while, which is why I needed to pull back.

All this to say, I decided I was sick of being out of the loop of my good friends’ art, and perhaps wanted to make some of my own. So, I started a fresh instagram account. My old one is still there, but I doubt I’ll touch it again. I would delete it, but I don’t want to lose the archive of content, so there it will sit. In the meantime, I chose a new screen name and I’m obsessed with it: @akinrhymeswithbacon

I made a video to post there, and also cross-posted to twitter. Hilariously, it went viral on twitter with 2.5 million views in less than a day (lol) but that’s because I quote-tweeted the content that inspired the video, and the algo showed my video to everyone who had seen the qt’d vid, so it makes sense. Also, the video is good, and I asked a dumb question in the caption, which people cannot resist answering. Humanity is funny.

I made a few more videos and had fun doing it! I will continue making videos as long as I’m having fun! I have been very inspired by my friend Grace who recently got back on youtube and it making some hilarious shit. She is also just trying to get back to our roots of having fun making shit! I might fire up the ol podcast just to have her on to talk about it. Amelia wants to record a new version of my podcast theme song herself with the swear word bleeped out of course hehe. Or else she might say/sing “boooop” like “break up with your bullBOOOOP” LMAO

Oh! I also wrote a story snippet yesterday and I switched to first person present tense to see what would happen (I NEVER WRITE IN PRESENT TENSE)
I found it invigorating, if a bit tough because I am so used to past tense. But it seemed to unlock more poetry in the writing for me, and I love that for myself!

I am a chatty cathy today, as you can see, and I think it’s because I started making and sharing again. I have needed this dormant period of being in hiding, and I thought I would be ready to emerge in September, but it turns out I needed a few more months to cook. Let’s go 🦋

Oct 2, 2025

I have spent the last 3 months in a sort of cocoon mode. Very few scheduled anythings. Lots of video games, playing with my kid, and tending to my home. And I have gotten even more clear that my primary role in this life, apart from mother, is writer. Writing has been a constant through my entire life and I intend for it to be my main focus from here.

I realize that I could write out a whole article about quitting full time coaching and focusing on my creative life instead, but that would be a move inside of the very paradigm I’d like to get away from. So I’m doing this quietly, with minimal fanfare.

I confess I had a pull to get back on instagram and announce it, but that pull has faded. It came in July right when I decided to cocoon, and I’m glad the three month waiting period did its thing. 😏

I’m still coaching my existing clients, but I’m not actively seeking new ones. I’m exploring other ways of being of service in the world, though I’ve yet to find anything I’d like to charge money for. Perhaps homemaking, mothering, and doing things that save our family time and increase our quality of life will be the main way I am “earning” for a while. And of course, I will continue working on my novel which has been “almost done” for months now. I’ve had my focus elsewhere in my personal life, but those tides will soon shift and I will make room to finish up this first draft.

I already have a few other very insistent ideas for novels tapping at my brain door, so I will likely jump into the next thing as soon as this draft is done, and give it some time and space to breathe before starting the editing and rewriting process.

Thank you for being here, and for caring :)